This is Why Unconditional Self-Love Trumps self-love

Is there a difference between these two concepts? In short, yes! But I am here to tell you why. You can practice self-love all you want, but unconditional self-love is the top-tier vibration of life. If you want to be a successful Body Positive activist, you ought to use unconditional self-love in your daily routine. As you all know; I was bullied for being a bigger girl who wanted to be a dancer. But now, I’m a dance fitness instructor at an internationally renowned fitness center. And I thank you unconditional self-love! Below, I will reiterate why unconditional self-love is a valuable method for Body Positive activists.

The Difference between Self-love and Unconditional Self-Love

Do not get me wrong, self-love is amazing but it can only get you so far because it comes with ‘conditions’. Self-love is a practice that says, love yourself cause you’re feeling bad about that ‘flaw’ you think is the end of your beauty. But unconditional self-love advocates mantras like wow I love myself ‘in spite of’ this flaw, and I am absolutely BEAUTIFUL with a capital BAH! While self-love says: I should be kind to myself and ignore that I have stretchmarks and cellulite. Whereas unconditional self-love says, ‘honnneeeyyy… you look so dang fine with your fine a** cellulite self’.

Unconditional self-love took years for me to practice. But I believe that anybody can do it. It becomes the easiest thing to do once you’ve mastered it. Think of it this way, everybody in this world has ‘flaws’, insecurities and imperfections. You love your spouse, relative, and your friends despite their ‘flaws’, so why can you not do this for yourself? The number one thing we as human beings struggle with is acknowledging that we are beautifully flawed. The immediate response is to unlove ourselves once we realize that we can be failures. However, once you acknowledge that you are a human being with flaws, and you start to love yourself IN SPITE OF THOSE ‘FLAWS’, you will become UNSTOPPABLE.

Let me put this into being. When I grew up, all I ever heard was ‘wow such nice hair’, ‘such nice face’ and ‘imagine all those nice features with a nice body’. To paraphrase these human beings… You would be a total 10, if you were ‘thin’. Well, ha-ha, the joke is on you because I have a nice body, just not a thin one. And I acknowledge that I am no Cindy Crawford, but I still love myself unconditionally to know that, despite having a ‘bigger’ body, I am beautiful and most importantly healthy. And that my friends, is how you love yourself without conditions. No matter what anybody else says about your ‘flaws’, it will not shake or break you because you are practicing unconditional self-love.